The Art of Growing Up: Lessons I Wish I Learned Sooner

When you’re a kid, the idea of growing up is thrilling. You imagine staying up late, eating all the candy you want… because, hey, you'd finally be an adult. But as you grow, those rose-tinted glasses start to crack, and adulthood isn’t quite the fantasy you pictured. Suddenly, you’re asking yourself, “Now what?”—because the truth is, most of us are just figuring things out as we go.

(Well, maybe Elon Musk knows what he’s doing, but that’s probably because he’s a Martian from some advanced space community.)

Turning 24 this year and facing the “Quarter-Life Crisis” head-on has made me reflect on lessons I wish I’d learned sooner. These insights are for all the young dreamers—take from it what you will.

1. Never Make Life-Changing Decisions After 2:00 AM

As Ted Mosby wisely said, “Nothing good happens after 2:00 AM… when 2:00 AM rolls around, just go home and go to sleep” (Season 1, Episode 18). Trust that late-night decisions rarely lead to great outcomes. Instead, get some rest and tackle big decisions with a fresh mind.

2. Start a Hobby and Stick with It

Give it at least six months if a hobby sparks something inside you. Exploring different interests will make you a more interesting and well-rounded, even if it’s just for you.

3. Follow Your Passion—But Have a Backup Plan

Following your passion is fulfilling, but preparing for a “Plan B” is wise. It’s not about doubting your dreams; it’s about being realistic with yourself. (Maybe that’s just my “prepper” brain talking, but a safety net never hurts.)

4. Talk to Your Parents More

This one’s tough for me, too. It’s not that I don’t want to, but sometimes my inner teenager still thinks I’ll get in trouble over nothing. Can you tell I grew up as a people-pleaser? Take the first step to connect with them; it’s worth it.

5. Stay Self-Aware and Hold Yourself Accountable

Growth starts with awareness. Not everyone can hold themselves accountable, but it’s one of the most valuable skills to develop. Who better to keep you on track than you?

6. Be Kind—Everyone’s Going Through Something

You never know what someone else is dealing with. The last thing you want is to be why their day worsens. (I remind myself of this every time there’s a bad driver on the road.)

7. Check in With Yourself Regularly

Take yourself out on a date—just you and your thoughts. It doesn’t make you a loner; it makes you resilient and self-aware. I took myself on three movie dates this year, and the rain on the drive home felt different each time. For the first time, I felt content with myself and where I was.

8. Learn to Stay Present

This one’s a work in progress for me! We spend so much time worrying about the past and future—things we can’t control—that we often miss out on the present. According to Einstein’s theory of special relativity, time isn’t fixed; it varies based on our frame of reference. This idea can serve as a powerful reminder in today’s fast-paced world to focus on the present moment, let go of unnecessary stress, and stay grounded. When we embrace that time is relative, we empower ourselves to live in the “now,” where real change and growth happen.

9. Document Your Life More

Our lives are increasingly stored in virtual spaces, and sometimes, we miss out on creating tangible memories. This year, I’ve tried taking more photos and journaling special moments. My “Junk Journal” isn’t perfect, but it’s a peaceful corner of my universe.

10. Spend More Time in Nature

Think of yourself like a plant—sunlight, fresh air, and water are all good for you. Long walks boost creativity, reduce stress, and keep you active. There’s something about reconnecting with nature that makes you feel alive. The outdoor fun we had as kids is something we should carry into adulthood.

Embracing the Journey of Growing Up

​So here we are, realizing that adulthood isn’t the magical, rule-free fantasy we once imagined. Life is filled with lessons—some obvious, some unexpected, and some that only hit once you’re already face-first in them. And that’s okay. It’s OK to feel lost, to question what you’re doing, and to have days when “adulting” feels like an Olympic sport.

What matters is staying curious, being kind, and grounding yourself in who you are. Find small ways to keep happy, connect with people who matter, and learn to appreciate where you are—even if the journey isn’t perfectly planned. Keep making memories, take time for yourself, and enjoy the process.

Because maybe adulthood isn’t about having all the answers. Maybe it’s just about going with the flow and figuring it out as you go.

By sharing these lessons, I hope it reminds you to embrace every part of your journey, and, who knows—maybe one of these insights will help you navigate your path a little easier.